Ever Feel Like This?

Posted: 2nd February 2011 by admin in Uncategorized


One Art by Elizabeth Bishop


The art of losing isn’t hard to master;

so many things seem filled with the intent

to be lost that their loss is no disaster.


Lose something every day. Accept the fluster

of lost door keys, the hour badly spent

The art of losing isn’t hard to master.


Then practice losing farther, losing faster:

places, and names, and where it was you meant

to travel. None of these will bring disaster.


I lost my mother’s watch. And look! my last, or

next-to-last, of three beloved houses went.

The art of losing isn’t hard to master.


I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,

some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.

I miss them, but it wasn’t a disaster.


Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture

I love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident

the art of losing’s not too hard to master

though it may look like (Write it!) a disaster.



  1. Anonymous says:

    Thank you guys for your comments! They mean a lot to me. Knowing that I’m not the only one feeling this way helps. I’ve often asked myself,
    while watching other people missing their loved ones; ‘Is something
    wrong with me?’ only to have to remind myself that no, there isn’t, I’ve
    just had a different life, one which has taught me to cope in a
    different way!

    @Jenna… feeling like a lost soul is something I grew up with. What helped me was to embrace who I am. We are different. This is not a bad
    thing just something that we need to accept and cope with. In my case it
    was a healing process, one where I needed to let go of all my past
    hurts and frustrations with the country I grew up in and accept that it
    was I who didn’t fit in. As soon as I realized that, I was able to fully
    live as who I am – a TCK – a person, not confused but well mixed. Now I
    revel in my differences and actively seek out people who are similar to
    us… i.e. other TCKs. The organization I work with is filled with
    either TCKs or people who have children who are :o) I think that if
    you’re able to find other TCKs you’ll find the balance that you need
    in your life :o) I truly hope this helps! :o)