I wrote a post about loneliness 3 years ago. Â And since then I do not believe I remember feeling it again. Â I have since married, started a new job and am currently in the process of buying a house.
It’s interesting where life takes you. Â Even to this day I do not know where it is taking me. Â I turn to this site time and time again when I feel the need to re-energize myself as a TCK. Â I think the sense of “loss” and “loneliness” will always be there but it’s a matter of how I deal with it.
I have a soulmate now and I would not have things any different. Â I share with him everything. Â He’s pretty much my stay-in best friend LOL Â And the only “friend” I can call while I am here in Connecticut. Â Someone who can understand me and not ask me questions of who I am. Â I see him as this “rock” that holds me in place as my mind continues to wander to faraway land. Â I have to say I am starting to grow a sense of fear in being lonely, in going to a new place and just feeling like nobody else understands you. Â
I’ve been travelling all my life and sometimes I do get tired. Â I just want to sit and relax and just enjoy life. Â And yet, there people around me that haven’t travelled that much and get excited about going to a new place.
I would love to again move somewhere new and live there but this time I won’t go it alone – I will have my soulmate with me.
I think it’s innate in TCKs that we want to share our experiences but it’s hard to find that person to share it with. Â I’ve travelled by myself once and I vow to never do it again – it’s too lonely.
My next trip is my honeymoon in London and I can’t wait. Â
I know how you feel Sarah. My roommate of two years reacted the same way when I told her I’d be moving. I mean, I know that it’s hard to say goodbye but with this day and age with all the technology – it’s hardly goodbye. After my move, she kept telling everyone how we had a “fall out” and how I never keep in touch and how I distanced and “cold” I was to just move without feeling sad.Â
Moving away doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world- some people just don’t get that. It means more new beginnings and exciting new adventures. For friendships that are meant to be, you’re not supposed to make the person leaving feel bad or guilty. *sigh
Hi Stefanie! Â Thanks for the encouragement!
About the house, I’m kinda scared and excited at the same time haha! Â But I’ve gotten some insight from the TCKs who decided to settle and I think I can handle that…we’ll see how I turn out 🙂